We talk Jessica Joelle Alexander, Bestselling Author of The Danish Way of Parenting, about what the happiest country in the world has to say about parenting.
2:39 - first impressions about Danish culture.
6:24 - after reading hundreds of parenting books, Jessica still preferred the advice from her Danish family.
8:13 - the birth of the book.
9:49 - our default setting for parenting.
12:7 - authoritarian vs authoritative style of parenting.
15:7 - free play is better than structured activities for kids.
18:0 - we want our kids to win but happiness is not about winning.
20:30 - we are scared that our kids fall behind if they are just left to play.
23:37 - how play creates an internal locus of control.
26:4 - self-esteem is not built by giving praise.
31:25 - cultural difference in values, such as humility.
36:49 - the happiest country in the world doesn't like stories with happy endings.
40:4 - sad endings normalise all feelings and improve emotional intelligence.
41:40 - training empathy as a skill.
45:13 - cooperation is more important than competition.
46:55 - importance of reframing.
48:47 - difference in how Danish people approach divorce.
51:53 - Hygge: we-fulness.
55:57 - get in touch with Jessica.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/jessica-joelle-alexander/