We talk to Dr. Michelle Drouin about how technology can both help and hinder our relationships. Dr. Michelle Drouin is an internationally-recognised research psychologist and a speaker on issues related to technology, relationships, couples, and sexuality. Her research has been featured in the many major media outlets including New York Times, CNN, NPR and Psychology Today.
1:53 - phantom phone vibrations.
2:35 - from development psychology to technology impact on relationships.
3:53 - is technology helpful or harmful to relationships?
7:24 - parents' concerns about kids on technology.
9:06 - technology opens up communication with people across the world.
9:47 - phone addiction is not all bad.
11:07 - using our phones for social good.
12:56 - calling her Grandma.
14:28 - millennials are scared of phone calls.
16:10 - does talking to strangers make us happy?
21:19 - a small kindness to a stranger can make their day.
23:06 - the intimacy famine why it matters.
25:37 - the life-giving power of physical touch.
30:24 - the importance of a shared bedtime routine with your partner.
33:05 - using technology together can still build intimacy.
34:35 - rules are important to avoid conflict.
36:28 - make rules when you are calm.
38:30 - rewards are more effective than punishment to change behaviour.
40:40 - how can singles get more intimacy?
42:59 - back burners - a threat to your relationship?
48:35 - Ex-partners are most likely to be backburners.
49:20 - social media is the cause for up to 30% of divorces.
50:27 - rules around social media?
52:10 - people may have different intent than you when using social media.
54:31 - the lies people are most disappointed by when online dating.
56:36 - lying on dating sites reduces relationship length.
57:52 - pitfalls to avoid when dating online.
1:00:23 - the criteria you are looking for when dating.
1:02:10 - relationships are so important.
1:03:21 - persisting with our current relationship vs looking for something new.
1:05:32 - what if our relationship has lost it's spark?
1:09:19 - connect with Michelle.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/dr-michelle-drouin/