In this episode we talk to Adrian Spear about managing our minds and how this helps us to deal with anger, stress and relationships. Adrian Spear is a mindfulness trainer and counsellor. Adrian believes that by training the mind you can gain control over your body, emotions and external stressors to enhance performance, relationships, contentment, and ultimately happiness.
1:27 - surfing.
2:46 - mental rehearsal.
4:59 - study on impact of visualisation on strength.
6:18 - What is mindfulness?
7:47 - the benefits of mindfulness.
8:14 - mindfulness = managing the mind.
9:36 - being present is becoming increasingly harder.
10:58 - active and mindful listening.
12:04 - difference between mindful and active listening.
15:35 - how we can train our minds.
20:01 - types of meditation.
21:55 - most important thing about meditation.
24:16 - why do we get angry?
27:08 - when anger is useful.
28:36 - anger can destroy relationships.
30:13 - underlying frustration and displacing anger.
31:17 - anger coping mechanisms.
32:19 - focus on what you can control.
32:55 - not taking offense.
34:13 - feedback vs taking offense.
34:46 - Adrian's journey with managing anger.
38:39 - aggression to be the best vs relationships.
39:57 - how Adrian started controlling his anger.
44:42 - how to get into meditation.
47:48 - is meditation for everybody?
48:58 - it's important to switch off to recover.
52:31 - impact of stress on relationships.
56:21 - three gates before you open your mouth to speak.
57:57 - relaxation technique to reduce stress.
01:01:48 - meaning is more important than striving to acquire more.
01:03:53 - thank you.
You can see more detailed show notes with links to references and key quotes at: https://candourpodcast.com/adrian-spear/